The Law Of Detachment and Motherhood by Jamie Cooley
"Become a Lily in The Valley"
Motherhood can be exhausting. With all the gentle parenting, housewifery, and passed down cultural knowledge classes; we can still find ourselves harboring stagnant energy from our daily sacrifices. This stagnant energy may come out as a scream, a curse word, or some form of abusive communication to oneself or to others. At times how we react to present occurrences, are rooted in our past conditioning and wanting to control the outcomes of the future.
Why is this? Simply because we have been subconsciously programmed on a global scale to attach ourselves to security and the search of it. The search for security is an illusion. The key is in the wisdom of uncertainty, the search for the unknown and trusting our alignment in the present moment is what will keep us from losing our minds and making choices that can cause more problems. (E.g. yelling or being forceful with child or spouse may get you a quick cease fire response but will plant seeds of future emotional problems.)
To avoid creating extra problems in our own personal journeys of motherhood, to free up stagnate energy and to naturally cut down on the screaming/yelling/forceful energy; I want you all to practice the law of detachment. Facilitating emotional detachment from wanting to control our spouse, children, and home/work life; imparts strength of mind and stabilizes emotions and mood swings.
The Law of Detachment simply says that in order to acquire anything in the physical universe, you have to relinquish your attachment to it. This doesn't mean you give up the intention to create your desire. You give up your attachment to the result. E.g. If you are homeschooling and your child is not performing well, relinquish your attachment to the result of the children not doing well. Keep your intentions and visions of your child successfully passing the academic goals, but do not refer to yelling, screaming, threats, or insults which will plant seeds to more problems. Letting go of the control, and trusting that everything will align is a very powerful thing to do.
Mental calisthenic exercises:
(1) Today I will commit myself to detachment. I will not impose my idea of how things should be. I will allow myself and those around me the freedom to be as they are. I will not force convenient solutions on problems, thereby creating new problems. I will participate in everything with detachment involvement.
(2) Today I will commit to stepping outside in nature, to feel the universal gifts of the soil, breeze, air, rain, snow, or sun solar flares when I feel the need to correct or control and release the energy into nature. Do this by identifying in your body where you are holding onto something. Once you have identified that spot, breathe a few times (from the belly) and start feeling the air coming through your body clear, relax and open that spot. Do it a few times until the tightness is gone. Do this while in nature.
(3) Today I will commit to listening and meditating to this audio on "The Law of Detachment" by Deepak Chopra https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dRswnurSdKg
Jamie Cooley
4/26/2022
4 min read